I finished the hand!

The top still needs to be grafted together, and then I need to pick up the thumb stitches and knit the rest of the thumb.
I kind of hit a snag, though, when I came to the part about the grafting, because I could not figure out this "kitchener sttich" thing. After a while, I realized that's because I've been using my double-pointed needles wrong for, well, as long as I've been knitting!
Does anyone have any advice for me on workng with DPNs (or circulars) the "right" way, or know whether doing it the "wrong" way will make much difference?

The top still needs to be grafted together, and then I need to pick up the thumb stitches and knit the rest of the thumb.
I kind of hit a snag, though, when I came to the part about the grafting, because I could not figure out this "kitchener sttich" thing. After a while, I realized that's because I've been using my double-pointed needles wrong for, well, as long as I've been knitting!
Does anyone have any advice for me on workng with DPNs (or circulars) the "right" way, or know whether doing it the "wrong" way will make much difference?